By Caroline Vazzana
As someone whose job revolves around social media, it’s a love-hate relationship. The love comes from the opportunity to share my creativity, and to have an outlet to connect with so many like-minded badass women. The hate part comes from the times I might not want to admit. Times when I may not be feeling good enough, pretty enough, cool enough, or even skinny enough. Being able to open your phone and instantly look at edited photos of models in bikinis can really start to make you question yourself. So, with this all being said, as someone who spends about 90% of their life in the digital world, how do I deal with the pressures of social media? Read below for my tips and tricks to staying sane and dealing with it all.
Post and that’s it. Sometimes I go through phases where I just go on Instagram to post and that’s it. I don’t scroll through, I don’t watch stories. I just hit share and close the app. Occasionally, I just need a break, and since I can’t actually take a break and not post for a week or two, I just use it as a platform to share. Or, if I do want to look around, I will only go to profiles that inspire me. Having several woman who, even if they themselves don’t know it, lift you up just by looking at their content, that makes a big difference.
It’s ok to cry. I repeat, IT IS OK TO CRY. I feel like I tell people this often because there’s this weird stigma that you can’t just cry sometimes. We don’t all have time or money for therapy, am I right? So letting it all out from time to time is totally ok. That being said, cry and then move on. Don’t harp on the negative for too long.
No one is you, and that is your super power. I feel like this one explains itself but, be you! Yes, you might feel pressure from social media, but don’t let that stop or change who you are. Also, don’t ever copy what someone else is doing. Yes, it might be working for them, but, we are all different. Find what makes you, you and run with that. If you’re being your most authentic self that will shine through!
Talk about your feelings with friends. Surround yourself with good people who get how you feel. Chances are they are probably feeling the same way, even if they haven’t said so. One time, I was talking to one of my good friends who is a blogger. She is absolutely gorgeous, like so pretty it’s just not fair. But one night I was talking with her and she told me that she also feels pressure of not looking good enough. My jaw practically hit the floor that she would feel this way, but it made me realize I’m not alone. Remember that!
Take a break. And when all else fails, unplug! Sometimes I find it really important to just live in the moment. Personally, if I’m at an event that I know is going to be a lot of fun, I make it a point to get my content as soon as I get there so I can fully enjoy the event the rest of the time. I’ve found it really does help!
Caroline Vazzana is a fashion writer, editor, and stylist living and working in her hometown of New York. She’s worked for Anna Sui, Marie Claire, Teen Vogue, and InStyle. She has collaborated with designers including Betsey Johnson and Diane Von Furstenberg, and has styled celebrities for various red carpets like the MTV Video Music Awards and Nickelodeon Kids Choice Awards. Caroline is currently the Founder & Creative Director of MakingManhattan.com where she hopes to shed light on the industry to the future fashion generation. Make sure to follow her everywhere @cvazzana for an inside look into her day to day in NYC.